We all do it. We compare our bodies, our houses, our jobs…anything that can validate or make us, or our opponent, feel less than.
For most, it’s an automatic response, as if there is no other option but to create a separation between “us and them”. We constantly engulf ourselves in this poison, allowing lack mentality to take over.
It doesn’t help that we live in a world where everyone feels like they have to literally “keep up with the Kardashians”, but the good news is that you CAN climb out of this comparison sink hole that has pulled you in so deeply. All you have to do is stick to your own path!
Easier said than done, I know, but has comparison helped you thus far? Probably not.
You cannot focus on yourself if you are constantly focused on others. You cannot better yourself if you are constantly putting yourself down. You cannot grow if you do not raise the bar.
Do not let your ego try to tell you that comparison = motivation, because it is quite the opposite.
Comparison KILLS motivation.
It puts out your fire and leaves you to sit in its ashes.
However, the good news is that you are always equipped with a box of matches to reignite the flame and burn away any negativity that does not serve you.
I don’t want to give you a bunch of remedies to help you stay on a positive path , but I must share the two that have helped me tremendously.
1. Get to Know Your SECURED Self.
Think of a moment in your life where you felt empowered. Was it while training for a marathon? After having a baby? When you landed the job that you worked so hard for? Or simply when you woke up one morning, looked around, and counted your blessings?
Whatever it may be, did anyone or anything else matter in that moment, or were you 100% at peace with yourself and what you were doing? Bring your mindset back to that moment and practice living it throughout the day. Soon it will become automatic.
Think with gratitude, not with lack. Be SECURE.
When you are secure, you need nothing else.
2. If Your Fire is Burning, Leave it Be.
What works for others may not work for you, and do not allow anyone to tell you any different. Learn to trust your own judgement. You know you best, and once you implement this, there is no need to look elsewhere for approval or a solution.
If your fire is strong, then keep at it! If something seems off, figure out what is causing the issue so that you can fix it in the best way possible for YOU.
Never let anything, or anyone, dull your fire.
Keep remembering your moment of empowerment, and repeat the steps that you took to get there.
Be secure with who YOU are, not who you are when compared to someone else.
Find your own joy, on your own path, and live with gratitude.
If you encounter a moment where your fire starts to dim, figure out why that is and use your box of matches to bring it back to life.
Protect yourself with love and positivity, digging deep to solve any issues that hold you back from becoming the person you were put on this earth to be.
Find your purpose, and let others find theirs.
Stay motivated. Stay YOU. Stay FIT! xo